Data, facts, and figures may convince people you have the right answer. But sometimes the real challenge is creating a connection that inspires someone to collaborate with or support you. Telling a great story at the right moment may be exactly the tool you need. Learn how to choose your moment and craft that winning story.
Airbnb that I’ve always loved. When they first launched their home-renting service in 2008, they struggled to attract customers. In 2013, the co-founders decided what they needed was a story. They wanted to do more than win minds with logic, facts, and figures; they also wanted to win hearts. They needed prospective renters and property owners to feel something that would compel them to engage with the service.
Airbnb wanted to do more than win minds with logic, facts, and figures; they also wanted to win hearts.
The company shifted its focus from highlighting facts—like the practicality of renting rooms or homes instead of hotels—to telling stories about the power of belonging.
“Belong anywhere” became the official tagline of Airbnb and led to the creation of their new logo and brand story. Their focus now was on helping people to feel at home wherever they were. Customers began sharing their own stories of belonging. Suddenly, business was booming.
Telling great stories—investing in winning hearts as well as minds—isn’t just for brands. As this Inc. article claims, storytelling is one of the most critical business skills we all need today:
Stories help us understand the world, find our place in it, and even convince others to buy into our ideas and products. … Your stories make you relatable. They show people why something is important rather than telling them.
The two questions we all need to answer are:
- How do you choose the right moment for a story?
- How do you craft and deliver that story for impact?
When do you tell a story?
As this Harvard Business Review piece explains:
The art of persuading by winning hearts is about connecting people emotionally to your idea or position.
Sometimes we do want to lead with rational logic and facts. Need to make a data-driven decision on which marketing campaign delivered the best results? Hard data is your friend. But in other moments when your objective is different, a story—a way to connect with someone’s emotions—may be just the thing.
Here, HBR continues, are some of the moments best suited to heart versus mind-winning:
- Introducing a new idea and trying to pique interest
- Gaining support for a decision that’s already been made
- Raising the bar on performance or commitment
- Leading a team that is struggling with discord or conflict
- Aligning with creative colleagues, like those in design or marketing
The common thread pulling through these examples is the need for support, allyship, or buy-in. When you need someone to want to do the thing, that’s when a story comes in handy.
When you need someone to want to do the thing, that’s when a story comes in handy.
So I’d like you to take a look at your calendar. What’s upcoming for you? Do you have a pitch meeting with a client? Are you grabbing virtual coffee with a mentor? Will you need support or collaboration from a colleague in a different department?
Have your facts ready. But find a spot for telling a great story. And then follow these steps to craft one.
How do you tell a story?
1. Be a story collector
Telling great stories begins with having great stories on hand.
When I’m talking to a new client, I have to prove myself. They want to see my track record of success, and I have the stats and metrics to show it. But I also need them to want to work with me. I’m not a vendor, I’m a partner, and I need to build trust and connection.
So in early meetings, I lean into my arsenal of stories, mostly about my kids. I keep a collection of those on hand for a few reasons.
First, kids are relatable. Many of my clients have their own. If not, they have nieces, nephews, cousins, and siblings, which helps my stories resonate.
Second, kid stories let me be authentic. I love my kids, and that shows through in my stories, which makes me seem more real.
Third, kid stories are a safe way for me to be vulnerable; to show moments in which I’ve screwed up and can laugh at myself.
Being able to laugh at myself is one thing, but I don’t want to try to impress a client by talking about a professional failure. That’s being a little too vulnerable. Instead, I’ll highlight a mistake that taught me a valuable lesson that ultimately made me better at what I do.
So now it’s your turn. Where will you start to dig for stories that show a softer side of you? Maybe it’s sports, or travel, or cars. Just pick a lane and start building your collection.
2. Establish a story structure
Once you have your source content, it’s time to start crafting the story.
The stories you tell will help others connect with you and want to be part of your success.
While there’s no one right way to tell a story, this Forbes piece offers a simple outline of the key elements to focus on:
- Clear moral or purpose. What’s the reason you’re telling this story, to this audience, at this time?
- Personal connection. Does the story involve you, or someone you feel connected to?
- Detailed characters and imagery. Does the story have enough visual description that we can see what you’re seeing?
- Conflict, vulnerability, or achievement. Can we see what you’re learning or how you’re growing?
Play around with these elements, and then try to craft a narrative that brings them all to life. The stories you tell will help others connect with you and want to be part of your success.
3. Practice your story
A skilled storyteller makes it look incredibly easy and natural. But have you ever been caught in someone’s story during this moment?
“So, it was last Wednesday. No, actually, I think it was Thursday. No, wait! It was Wednesday because I remember it was raining. But hold on—first I have to tell you what happened on Monday or this won’t make sense.”
Listening to disjointed stories like these can be painful. Does it matter whether it was Wednesday or Thursday? Nope. Are we going to be able to make sense of—and, more importantly, connect with—a story where the teller has to repeatedly backtrack to fill in gaps? Probably not.
You want to practice and refine your stories so that you subject your listeners only to the details that matter and that move the narrative forward.
You want to practice and refine your stories so that you subject your listeners only to the details that matter and that move the narrative forward. Scrub the rest.
Tell your stories to people you trust and watch their reactions. Where do they laugh or gasp or nod? Which moments tend to make their eyes glaze over?
As Ira Glass, a master storyteller and host of the This American Life podcast, once famously said:
Good storytelling includes, among other things, having the courage to cut the crap. Not enough gets said about the importance of abandoning crap.
Pay attention and refine your technique as you go.
4. Connect your story to a purpose
A well-crafted and delivered story can be charming. Good stories create connection and inspire support. But all-charm-and-no-purpose will leave your audience confused and frustrated.
So once your story has reached its conclusion, be sure your point is abundantly clear so you don’t leave your audience thinking “So what?”
Your story’s conclusion has to deliver an insight that links to the moment.
When I tell a story about one of my daughters there is always some levity, something the audience can relate to. But ultimately, its conclusion has to deliver an insight that links to the moment.
I tell one story about the headache-inducing outfits my older daughter used to wear to preschool every day. I describe the cornucopia of neons and zippers and feathers, and I see people visualizing the hilarious horror right along with me.
It always wins a laugh. But then I get to the point: It’s important, in business and in life, to find safe spaces in which to test and experiment and learn by trying. I want clients to know this is part of my mindset, that I encourage experimentation in safe spaces, and facilitate learning as we go. The story, when I make that connection clear, helps position me as a partner who also knows how to laugh.
So now it’s your turn. Go try this out, and when you see that first spark of connection, tell me the story of how it went.